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Divorce & Starting Over

A compassionate, practical 6-week program to help you navigate divorce with clarity, rebuild your confidence, and step into your next chapter with a plan.

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What you'll walk away with

This isn't theory. Every module gives you concrete tools, checklists, and frameworks to use immediately.

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Legal Clarity

Understand the divorce process, key documents, and how to protect your interests.

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Financial Plan

Build a post-divorce budget, understand asset division, and secure your financial future.

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Emotional Toolkit

Process grief, set boundaries, and rebuild your sense of self on your own terms.

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Fresh Start Plan

Housing, logistics, routines, and a 90-day action plan for your new chapter.

Course curriculum

Six weeks of structured guidance. Click any week to explore the lessons inside.

💜 Lesson 1: Understanding Your Emotions

Divorce triggers a grief response — even when you initiated it. Before you can plan your next chapter, you need to acknowledge what you're carrying emotionally. This lesson helps you name what you're feeling, understand why it's normal, and begin to move through it rather than around it.

  • Why divorce is a grief process, not just a legal event
  • The emotional landscape: shock, anger, sadness, fear, relief — and why all of it is valid
  • The grief cycle: why it's non-linear and what to expect
  • Practical ways to process emotions without numbing or suppressing
  • When your feelings become too much to handle alone
Your Activity Complete the "My Starting Point" worksheet. Write your top 3 fears and top 3 hopes for this transition. You'll revisit these in Week 6.
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My Starting Point
My Top 3 Fears

Write your top 3 fears about this transition. Be honest — there are no wrong answers.

My Top 3 Hopes

Write your top 3 hopes for your next chapter. These are your compass.

Any Other Thoughts

📋 Lesson 2: Taking Stock of Your Life

You can't chart a new course without knowing where you stand. This lesson walks you through an honest, compassionate inventory of five key life areas — not to overwhelm you, but to give you clarity. Every honest answer you write down is a gift to your future self.

  • The 5 domains: Relationships, Finances, Career, Health, Home
  • Who's in your corner? Who needs a boundary? Assessing your relationship circle
  • Financial snapshot: what you earn, what you owe, what you need
  • Career and health: often neglected but critical during transition
  • Your living situation: what's stable, what's uncertain, what needs a plan
Your Activity Complete the Life Inventory worksheet — a guided assessment across all 5 domains. Rate each area on a scale of 1–10 and write 2 observations per domain.
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Life Inventory

Rate each life domain 1–10 and write 2 honest observations. No right answers. Just truth on paper.

Relationships
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Finances
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Career
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Health
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Home
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🌟 Lesson 3: Setting Your Intention

You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need a direction. This lesson introduces intention-setting as a powerful anchor — a guiding principle that shapes your decisions even when everything feels uncertain. This is different from goal-setting; it's about who you want to become, not just what you want to do.

  • What an intention is (and isn't) — guiding principle vs. task list
  • Four questions to define your intention: Who do I want to become? What do I want to feel? What do I want to build? What do I want to release?
  • Writing your vision statement: first person, present tense, deeply personal
  • How to use your intention as a daily anchor
  • Revisiting and refining as you grow through the program
Your Activity Complete the Intention-Setting template. Write a 2–3 sentence vision statement for your next chapter. Keep it visible — on your mirror, your phone, or the first page of your journal.
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Intention-Setting

Answer the four questions. Then write your 2–3 sentence vision statement. Keep it visible — on your mirror, your phone, your journal.

The Four Questions
My Vision Statement

First person, present tense, 2–3 sentences. Write it as if it's already true.

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💰 Lesson 1: Financial First Steps

Knowing your financial numbers is power, not panic. Before any decisions can be made — about housing, legal strategy, or your budget — you need a clear picture of what you have, what you owe, and what comes in and goes out each month. This lesson makes that process clear and manageable.

  • Know what you have: all checking, savings, investment, and retirement accounts
  • Know what you owe: mortgage, car loans, credit cards, student loans, personal debts
  • Know your cash flow: income sources and true monthly expenses
  • How and when to open individual accounts in your name only
  • Protecting your credit: check all 3 bureaus and freeze joint accounts if needed
Your Activity Complete the Financial Snapshot worksheet — a one-page overview of your accounts, debts, income, and monthly expenses. This becomes the foundation for Week 3.
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Financial Snapshot
My Accounts

List all accounts — checking, savings, investment, retirement.

Account Name / InstitutionTypeApprox. Balance
My Debts

List all debts — mortgage, car, credit cards, student loans, personal loans.

Creditor / LenderTypeApprox. Balance Owed
Monthly Cash Flow

⚖️ Lesson 2: Legal Basics You Need to Know

You don't need a law degree — you need the right questions. This lesson gives you a clear, jargon-free overview of the divorce process, the types of divorce available to you, and exactly what documents to gather before your first attorney consultation.

  • The four types of divorce: uncontested, contested, collaborative, mediated
  • What every divorce attorney needs from you at your first meeting
  • 5 must-ask questions before hiring any attorney
  • What to do before you file: documents to gather and accounts to note
  • Protecting yourself now — even if you're not sure you'll proceed
Your Activity Work through the Legal Checklist — the documents to gather and the attorney questions to bring to your first consultation. Tackle 3 items from the list this week.
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Legal Checklist
Documents to Gather

Check off each item as you locate and secure it. Tackle 3 this week.

Attorney Consultation Checklist

Check off each question after you've prepared your answer or brought it to a consultation.

Notes & Next Steps

👩‍👩‍👦 Lesson 3: Building Your Support Team

You are not meant to do this alone. The people around you — and the professionals you bring in — will shape how you experience this transition. This lesson helps you map out who you need, who you already have, and how to ask for what you actually need from each person.

  • The three circles of support: emotional, practical, professional
  • Emotional support: close friends, family, therapist, support group
  • Practical support: who can help with kids, logistics, housing, errands
  • Professional support: attorney, financial advisor, therapist, life coach
  • How to ask for help clearly — and how to set limits with people who want to help in ways that don't actually help
Your Activity Complete the Support Network Map — write the names of 2–3 people in each circle and one specific thing you can ask each of them for this week.
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Support Network Map

Write 2–3 names in each circle and one specific thing you could ask each person for this week.

❤ Emotional Support

Close friends, family members, therapist, support group — people who hold space for how you feel.

🔧 Practical Support

People who help with what needs doing — kids, logistics, errands, meals.

💼 Professional Support

Attorney, financial advisor, therapist, coach, mediator — experts who guide your decisions.

⚖️ Lesson 1: Understanding Divorce Types

Choosing the right divorce process can save you tens of thousands of dollars — and months of stress. This lesson walks through every path available so you can make a confident, informed choice.

  • Contested vs. uncontested divorce — key differences and costs
  • Mediation: when a neutral third party helps you reach agreement
  • Collaborative divorce: a team approach that keeps you out of court
  • Litigation: what it means, when it's unavoidable, and what to expect
  • Decision factors: your situation, budget, and relationship dynamics
Your Activity Use the "My Divorce Path" decision tree worksheet to identify which process fits your situation and outline your first 3 steps.
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My Divorce Path

Work through each step to identify the right divorce process for your situation.

Step 1 — Do you and your spouse agree on the major issues?
Step 2 — Are minor children involved?
Step 3 — What is your primary priority?
My Chosen Path

Select the process that best fits your answers above.

My First 3 Steps
Notes & Questions to Ask

📈 Lesson 2: Dividing Assets and Debts

Understanding how courts divide property — and how to protect what's yours — is one of the most important skills you'll need. This lesson demystifies asset division so you can negotiate from a position of knowledge.

  • Community property vs. equitable distribution — which state are you in?
  • Marital vs. separate property: what can and can't be divided
  • Retirement accounts and pensions: how QDROs work
  • Hidden assets: red flags and how to uncover them
  • Debts: who's responsible and how to protect your credit
Your Activity Complete the asset & debt inventory worksheet — list every account, property, and debt with estimated values. This becomes your negotiation starting point.
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Asset & Debt Inventory

List your major marital assets and debts. This becomes your negotiation starting point.

Assets — What You Have
AssetEst. ValueJoint / Mine / Theirs
Debts — What You Owe
DebtBalance OwedJoint / Mine / Theirs
Settlement Priorities

👶 Lesson 3: Custody and Co-Parenting Basics

Protecting your children's wellbeing while establishing a workable custody arrangement requires both legal knowledge and communication strategy. This lesson gives you both.

  • Legal custody vs. physical custody: knowing the difference matters
  • Joint vs. sole custody: what courts prioritize
  • Building a parenting plan that actually works in real life
  • Communication strategies for a high-conflict co-parenting situation
  • Apps and tools that simplify co-parenting logistics
Your Activity Use the co-parenting agreement template to draft your ideal parenting schedule, holiday plan, and communication ground rules.
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Co-Parenting Agreement

Draft your ideal co-parenting framework here. Even rough notes help when negotiating your parenting plan.

Custody Arrangement
Preferred physical custody arrangement:
Weekly Schedule
Holidays & Special Events
Communication Ground Rules
Preferred communication method with co-parent:
Key Parenting Rules

💰 Lesson 1: Creating Your New Budget

Your financial reality has changed. This lesson gives you a practical, compassionate framework for building a post-divorce budget that covers your needs, respects your new income, and leaves room to breathe.

  • The post-divorce budget framework: income, fixed costs, variables, savings
  • Calculating your true single-household monthly costs
  • Needs vs. wants: prioritizing ruthlessly when money is tight
  • Emergency fund: how much you need and the fastest way to build it
  • Budgeting apps and tools that make it easier
Your Activity Complete the "My New Budget" monthly planner worksheet. Map out your income, every expense, and identify 3 areas where you can immediately reduce spending.
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Monthly Budget Planner

Build your post-divorce monthly budget. Enter amounts for your new single-household reality.

Monthly Income
Total Monthly Income
Fixed Expenses (same each month)
Variable Expenses
Total Monthly Expenses
Budget Analysis

💳 Lesson 2: Credit and Banking in Your Name

If most of your financial life was joint — or your spouse managed the accounts — this lesson is your starting line. You'll learn exactly how to establish independent banking and build credit from the ground up.

  • How credit scores work and why yours matters right now
  • Opening your own checking, savings, and credit accounts
  • Safely removing yourself from joint accounts and debts
  • Building credit history: secured cards, credit-builder loans, authorized user status
  • Your 90-day credit-building action plan
Your Activity Pull your free credit report at annualcreditreport.com and complete the financial independence checklist — open accounts, remove joint obligations, and set your first credit goal.
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Financial Independence Checklist

Check items off as you complete them. Progress is momentum — every box checked is a step toward independence.

30 Days — Establish the Foundation
60 Days — Build Credit & Security
90 Days — Plan for the Future
What Financial Independence Means to Me

🌟 Lesson 3: Planning for Your Financial Future

Retirement looks different now. So do your insurance needs and investment approach. This lesson helps you reset your financial future with clear eyes and a plan that works for your new reality.

  • Recalculating your retirement timeline as a single earner
  • What to do if you received (or gave up) part of a pension or 401(k)
  • Insurance review: health, life, disability — what you need now
  • Investing basics for beginners: index funds, dollar-cost averaging, risk tolerance
  • Setting your 1-year financial goals and building momentum
Your Activity Complete the 1-year financial goals planner — set specific targets for savings, debt payoff, retirement contributions, and one new skill or earning stream.
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1-Year Financial Goals Planner

Goals without timelines are wishes. Set specific targets with amounts and dates to make them real.

Short-Term Goals — Next 1–3 Months
Mid-Term Goals — 3–6 Months
Long-Term Goals — 6–12 Months
Accountability Plan

🌟 Lesson 1: Rediscovering Who You Are

When a marriage ends, it's easy to lose track of yourself — your interests, your values, your sense of what you want. This lesson is about reclaiming the person you were before "we" became the default, and discovering who you're becoming now.

  • Identity beyond marriage: who are you when you're not someone's spouse?
  • Values clarification: what matters most to you in this next chapter?
  • Interests and passions you set aside — it's time to reclaim them
  • The difference between who you were told you were and who you actually are
  • Building a sense of self that belongs entirely to you
Your Activity Complete the "Who Am I Now?" self-discovery worksheet — explore your core values, rediscovered interests, and the identity you're building for your next chapter.
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🚪 Lesson 2: Setting Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are one of the most powerful tools you'll build in this chapter. Whether with your ex, your family, your co-workers, or yourself — this lesson teaches you what boundaries really are, how to communicate them clearly, and how to hold them when people push back.

  • The four types of boundaries: physical, emotional, time, and digital
  • How to communicate a boundary without starting a fight
  • Dealing with pushback: guilt, manipulation, and persistence
  • Boundary-setting with your ex, especially around co-parenting
  • The boundary that's hardest to keep: the one with yourself
Your Activity Use the boundary-setting scripts worksheet — practice real language for the conversations you need to have, and map out your most important boundaries with each person in your life.
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🕐 Lesson 3: Building New Routines

Structure creates safety — especially when your world has been upended. New routines don't just help you feel more in control; they signal to your nervous system that life is becoming stable again. This lesson helps you design a week that supports the life you're building.

  • Why routines heal: the neuroscience of predictability and stress
  • Designing your ideal daily and weekly schedule from scratch
  • Self-care non-negotiables: the things that can't be optional
  • Energy management: knowing your high-focus hours and protecting them
  • Making room for joy — scheduling it in until it happens naturally
Your Activity Complete the "My New Week" routine planner — map out your mornings, evenings, self-care blocks, and one weekly ritual that's just for you.
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📋 Lesson 1: Revisiting Your Goals

You wrote down your fears and hopes in Week 1. This lesson brings you full circle. Before you plan forward, you need to see how far you've already come — and adjust your map for where you're actually going.

  • Progress reflection: what you've learned, shifted, and overcome
  • Returning to your Week 1 fears — how many feel smaller now?
  • Adjusting the plan: what do you want now that you didn't know to want before?
  • Celebrating wins — big and small — without waiting for permission
  • Setting goals that reflect the person you are now, not who you were in Week 1
Your Activity Complete the "My Starting Point Revisited" worksheet — pull out your Week 1 fears and hopes, and respond to each one from where you stand today. This is the full-circle moment of the course.
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🌟 Lesson 2: Creating Your Vision Board

Vision isn't wishful thinking — it's a compass. This lesson teaches you how to create a clear, meaningful picture of the life you're building, organized around every dimension of your future: home, career, health, relationships, and joy.

  • Why visualization actually works (and how to use it without the woo)
  • Goal categories: home, career, health, relationships, finances, personal growth
  • How to write vision statements that feel true, not aspirational
  • Digital vs. physical vision boards — both work, here's how
  • Turning vision into intention: from "I want" to "I am building"
Your Activity Complete the digital vision board template — write a vivid, present-tense vision statement for each life area, then identify one action per category you'll take in the next 30 days.
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🚀 Lesson 3: Your Action Plan Forward

This is the final lesson — but it's really just the beginning. Everything you've built in this program comes together here: your clarity, your goals, your identity, your support system. Now you need a plan to act on all of it.

  • The 30-60-90 day planning framework: near-term focus with long-term vision
  • How to set milestones that are specific, time-bound, and actually doable
  • Accountability systems that work (for people who hate accountability systems)
  • Resources: books, communities, professionals to support your journey forward
  • A final note: what it means to graduate this program and carry it forward
Your Activity Complete "My Next 90 Days" — your personalized action plan with milestones, deadlines, and an accountability partner commitment for each of the next three months.
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